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MEN’S FEARS ABOUT MARRIAGE

The age old joke about marriage amongst men is about the apprehension of having a married life. Does this fear of commitment or marriage really exit or is it simply an implicit practice that every groom has to go through?

“The world is your play ground, but not anymore after your married.” reveals Hafeez Shahiwala a 25year old automobile engineer engaged since 2 months, getting a spank on his back from is fiancé sitting next to him.

“Men are institutally given the title of providers. They gain their confidence from their capability of providing to their loved ones. Whereas, women are nurturers and get satisfaction from nurturing people around them. So, men and women have different views on commitment and marriage”,explains Dr. Shwetambara Sabrawal Psychotherapist and Marriage Counselor.

A survey conducted amongst the men of age group of 25 to 32 years from different cultures, discovered that men between 24 to 26 years are not that willing to get into a commitment of marriage. They have reservations such as loss of freedom, bachelorhood, as well as the burden of financial responsibility. On the other hand, men between 27 to 32 years of age are unwavering on the same issue.

“Transformation happens to us after marriage. Boys get married and become men after that”, accepts the to-be-groom and Advertising professional Dushyant Kumar age 28 years.

“We tend to sober down after marriage, we become responsible”, comprehends soon to get engaged to long last girl friend Praveen Kurup age 28 Senior writer.

It is famously said that, “Boys will be boys and they want to have all the fun.” There are preconceived notions about men and marriage, but it is also true that marriage is a universal phenomenon and is constant since Adam and Eve. So men aren’t that closed minded about commitment as it is popularized.

When we asked the prospect grooms about their worries like losing personal space and making combined decision on every issue.

“Marriage takes you to the next level in life so you get in control of life and start planning things for your life.” cautions Hemen Kothari age 26 a CA getting married in 2007.

“If you are sure about the girl and yourself, then it is better to marry soon otherwise one could either have a live- in relationship or a longer courtship period” explains Murtuza age 30 CA getting married in December 2007 after a long courtship of two years.

“Men will not express their fear of not keeping up to the role of providers, so they try to keep away from it. This is a common phenomenon amongst the younger men.” clarifies, Dr. Shwetambara Sabrawal Psychotherapist and Marriage Counselor.

There may be many reasons as to why men fear commitment. Unlike other bonds, men are also of the opinion that marriages should last forever, and try their best to save the relationship. If you have found that special someone then go ahead and tie the knot!

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